How Can You Play Online When You Don’t Know Anyone?

You like multiplayer games but you don’t know anyone to team up with? Discord, forums, guilds … here are several ways to find fellow adventurers!

World of Warcraft, League of Legends, Fortnite or Overwatch all have one thing in common (other than the fact that they bring millions of people together every day): they are multiplayer games.

Playing online with your buddies is both cool and time-consuming… but not everyone around you has people who play AND have the same tastes!

Most games offer matchmaking, which allows you to play in teams with strangers, but it’s a bit of a lottery. Also, you can’t always be in voice, which makes the adventure much less cool. Not to mention the relous…

You’ll get the hang of it, it gets tiresome pretty fast and you figure there’s probably a lot better. YES, there are better things.

Play online using Discord

Discord is a free chat software that was designed specifically for video games.

It takes the form of servers organized according to the desires of the people who administer them. There are private servers (with a code to access them) and public servers.

And above all, there is something for everyone!

How to find Discord servers with the help of your buddies

For starters, you can ask around if you have any friends who play. It’s not uncommon for them to already have private servers between friends.

I was quite surprised to see that in my entourage, several people had their server, whether it was in a student association or just friends who played Fifa together from time to time.

Don’t hesitate to get invited, it’s not because a server was created for a specific game that its participants don’t play other stuff!

How to find servers Discord to your taste

If you don’t know anyone who plays online, you can search for community servers. There are plenty of them, based on all kinds of communities.

Some personalities like streameurs, streameuses, youtubeurs and youtubeuses also have their community servers. If you like their content, this is a good way to find a server.

The advantage of community servers is that you can easily recognize yourself in the maturity or interests of the people there, so you don’t get too far behind.

You can also search the Internet according to the games you are interested in. A reader told me that she found a Discord, dedicated to Nintendo games, in which she has invested herself to the point of becoming a moderator!

If you’ve never played MMORPG-type games before, but would like to get started, there are many guilds that will be happy to welcome you to play as a group.

All you have to do is ask either directly in the game or on dedicated forums. You can start with PvE (Player versus Environment) guilds because it’s a collaborative style of play, so there’s less pressure.

What do you do when you get to Discord?

Start a discussion! In writing, if you’re not comfortable talking directly to someone.

You can go to the general conversation channels and join in on ongoing discussions. The most important thing is to find out who the people on the server are, what their interests are, their ages, their level of maturity, and whether they’re right for you.

If you don’t feel good, don’t bother to stay, there are so many other places to try elsewhere to inflict yourself to be with people you don’t like… (A tip that also works in real life.)

If you feel more comfortable, you can chat in voice. Go into open living rooms: people don’t usually stay there to have private discussions!

They’re just there to meet people. If they’re playing, you can simply ask if you’re welcome. Don’t panic, it’s quite natural and it goes well!

The servers that are well organized offer events on a regular basis. Depending on the type of game this can take different forms, but the idea is to get together at a set time to play together.

This can allow you to find teams easily and also to be with people who like you don’t know everyone yet. A good way to meet people!

Another technique is to help people (especially the new ones), it’s a great way to exchange easily.

If you come regularly, you will quickly create affinities with certain people and why not build your own server in turn!

Esport bars, a good way to meet people IRL

Esport bars are everywhere. They are places where you can come to play, have a drink, watch a sports match or take part in themed events.

Find out more, because if you live in a medium to large city, there’s bound to be one not far from where you live!

The best thing to do, for a first, is to go there with some friends to discover the place. There are sometimes cool theme parties that can also be suitable for people who are not very video game fans (Harry Potter, Just Dance…).

If you have a great self-confidence shot (DO IT) you can also go alone to get a great computer and why not start a game with your neighbor or your table neighbor. The exchanges are quite easy when it comes to playing.

Playing online as a woman [grey!]

The video game world is sexist, like the rest of the world to my regret 🙁 But it’s particularly visible because it’s a world populated with guys. Especially the multiplayer games which are very masculine.

Playing online is often playing with groups of guys. Sad as it may be, you might have better odds of buddying up if you are a woman…

The testimonies of ordinary sexism in network games are numerous, unfortunately. However, it’s a bit like real life: you’re going to run into some very good people.

Don’t hesitate to seek support from other people in your group if you come across a relou. Most of the players are very cool and know these issues very well.

All in all, if you’re on a community server that you’ve chosen or with guilds that are serious, it’s going to be fine!

Stay yourself and trust yourself, your level of play doesn’t determine your place in a group, everyone is here to have a good time!

I hope these tips will make you want to play online and meet lots of nice people!

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